Just because a T (or anyone else) doesn't state something is a boundary, doesn't mean it's not. You can't plan ahead for every circumstance that comes up in life.

I think Rainbow's T does accept her, but from all the posts that have been written, she sure does cross boundaries a lot.

And you CAN control the compulsions. You are CHOOSING not to.

If your T wanted you to know about her boyfriend, she would have told you.