Maybe this is midlife crisis I don't know.

I'm married, settled life, nothing fancy but comfortable, our son is grown now. I work and volunteer, my job is routine, heavy physically (I am fit), but a regular wage. Volunteering is nice (can sometimes be sad because of declining health of people I volunteer with).

I love my husband, things haven't always been easy but he's a good guy. He's older than me and I have always been aware my old age will be alone because of this.

Happiest days of both our lives were when son was little and we had such fun times, now he is grown that is over.

Sometimes life feels so joyless like the best bits are over and nothing to look forward to. I don't think this is depression (was treated earlier this year), rather more a rational awareness. How do I reconcile myself to the fact the best bits are over? My overwhelming mode is flat and tired.

I am in the same boat also, & I am estranged from several major people in my family, but thanks to my 3 dogs, 3 horses, & a cat, who's love is always
unconditional, I still feel a sense of purpose in my life. Without them, (since they depend on me daily, & it helps keep me feel focused & grounded), I can't even imagine what mental state I'd be in right now, without my animals, who give so much, & ask so little in return! I know how hard losing an animal is, & I do take it hard as well, but I try to go into owning each new pet knowing that chances are, I'll outlive them, so I'm determined to make the most of the time I have with them, & remembering & taking photos of all the great times & many happy memories we've had. If you have a dog, taking them for a daily walk or to just throw the ball for awhile, gives you a sense of accomplishment, & knowing you're making them happy, or even if it's just playing with a toy your cat loves, or brushing a pet you have, is a positive feeling. If animals are something you're interested in, maybe you could consider getting whatever type of pet you feel suits your personality, time & household, or if you already have one, try spending more time with them. Dogs are so happy just to be allowed to for a ride, even if it's just going on errands with you.