My husbands ex could never keep a job. Well he now pays her alimony because she has very limited work history and judge felt she needs X amount of years to start a semi decent job.

You said he has college degree and student loans? Who pays those back and why is he working minimum wage jobs? Although my husbands ex also has college degree but the only jobs she ever had were 15 hours a week minimum wage. Amazing. My husbands ex would be a great match for your husband. Just amazing. Is he an alcoholic? Goes to bed at 4am and consumes so much...sounds so stressful