it took me like 5 years to tell my T i love him. he was very good about that. ive told him it like 4 times i think? it was all through text messages. i feel texting it, rather than saying it to his face, creates distance for me... a safe enough distance to be able to express it. we had discussed my attachment to him in person. at first it felt scary and uncomfortable. it seems easier now, but thats not say that the emotions involved aren't difficult and painful.