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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
I guess my t has to know I like her. She tells me she likes me but I have never said I liked her. I never said I hated her either, I proclaim indifference and I do that when someone matters. It hurts so much because I want to tell them how much they mean but the words won't come out. I always end up pushing ts away or accusing them of something until they terminate. I have ghosted a few and not given them a chance to explain. I can feel the same situation happening again with my t. I didn't cancel my next session but I am strongly feeling that I should just not show up and ignore her calls. I have never not shown up for therapy with her but I have done this with my other ts. I would appreciate any feedback. I realise I can be quite defensive around my t and I am in the process of dropping that. I want to tell her I am so mad at her, I want to tell her not to be so mean to me.
I am interested in hearing any advice on how others dealt with these strong feelings?
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Hi Mona
I send emails to my therapist after each session. ( she's fine with it). If I have concerns about something regarding her I address it in the email. We always discuss it when we meet the following week. I'm finding it easier to discuss things with her now because the email has served as an icebreaker so to speak. I'm not sure if you are beyond that at this point, I know it's been very difficult working with your therapist. I'm hoping that you will seek out someone who is compassionate, empathetic and very importantly, respectful. Happy holidays to you!!
