Mal,
The following remarks are from your post to SkyBdark:
<ul type="square">[*]highly inappropriate[*]demeaning and not supportive[*]You are out of line[*]you're out of line here as well[*]What right do you have[*]This is patronizing and insulting[*]with your very OBVIOUS prejudices[*]JUST PLAIN WRONG[*]non-supportive and counterproductive and out of line[/list]I personally wouldn't feel supported if anyone was typing the above phrases to me. But that is me.

I'm sure that candistyx appreciates feeling supported but most people in these forums support each other without the expense of tearing down another.

Is there any way for you to communicate with SkyBdark without so much seemingly negative judgement?

I've seen in your posts that you have the ability to be supportive and that you honestly appear to want to participate here.

I'm hopeful that you'll catch more flies with honey than vinegar. Like you I've also been around on line people who do nothing but attack and that approach doesn't get anyone very far.