I have been in and out of therapy since I was a teenager.Being female,I always preferred seeing a female therapist.But the last T I had was male,and I stayed in therapy with him for 6 years and it was extremely helpful and beneficial.

I realize now,in hindsight,that I never made any progress what-so-ever with any of the females because I don't trust them.I know it's because of the type of mother I had,she never believed anything I told her,blamed me for the sexual abuse I endured,beat me,was cold and uncaring,etc.

I didn't realize any of this until I started seeing a male T,and noticed right away there was a huge difference in the way I felt and the way I was able to open up to him.Seeing a female was so different,I was never comfortable talking about anything with them.

Is your T male or female?Why?