Mapper, I respect that you do not believe in divorce. I don't agree with it, but that's your value and you are completely entitled to have it. And I know you don't want a whole lot of advice, but I do have a suggestion. You spend a lot of time getting upset about the things your husband does or doesn't do, and how he treats you. If I were in your shoes, I would do everything I can do move on and enjoy my life without bothering with him and his shenanigans. Stop worrying about what he does and doesn't do, treat him like the roommate he is, and go about your life. Make outside friends and enjoy their company. Join a bowling league or a book club. Find people you can spend time with who will appreciate you for you who you are and spend as little time as possible with this man. I think this will help you at least be happier with life, if you can't change things about your marriage.

Good luck,
seesaw