I have been "me" for a very long time. "Me" = biologically female, people use female pronouns, I use female bathrooms, I have not worn an article of female clothing in about 20 yrs and have been binding for those 20 yrs, I physically move more masculine and tend to enjoy more male leaning hobbies.

I have never told my family about my gender, I have always just been me and become more me as time has progressed. I am almost 50 and with the recent changes in wpath guidelines, I am pursuing top surgery and a hysterectomy. With this round of therapy and with reaching menopause, I have decided to try a low dose T regimen as I have found that I feel my best me when I am feeling my most masculine me.

My family will not out and out ask me any questions about me... about anything about me. So - I have been debating do I tell them or don't I ... I waffle. My wife's response is, I don't have to tell them, why bother, they won't ask they will just accept me for me. I think it is more they will ignore those parts of me they don't understand and accept the parts of me that match their narrative of me. She is right though in the since of why bother when I know they don't really want to hear it.

No answers here, just another person going through similar thoughts. And in part perhaps your age has more to play with it. Like I said, I'm almost 50, my parents are almost 70 why make it be a big deal now in each other's lives?