I'm just wondering why do you think that your current feelings aren't transference? Transference feelings don't include only loving or attachment feelings. They could be anything. Although I think that in current situation there is probably a real and valid reason for being annoyed and a sincere apology from the T would certainly be in order, there are also possibly other feelings that are evoked from somewhere from the past, e.g. transference.

The second thing is why don't you plan to tell her anything about it? I mean, you have OCD around those things, your T, who probably knows it, manages to mess up in such a way and doesn't even apologize - well now there is so much therapeutic material to work with that I don't understand why you want to waste it.

But yeah, sure, I've had things like that happening. Just last week my T was in the middle of a phone call when he asked me to enter the consultation room and he continued that phone call still for another couple of minutes, even stepping out of the room for a while. And this phone call wasn't about any emergency situation but something about make over or furniture! I mean, that was something completely outrageous to me - my T (a psychoanalyst) is always on time, you step in exactly on time, unless you're late of course, and you step out exactly on time, regardless of whether you've been late. And now this. Well, I did not take it well. In addition to that, while he was outside the room, I spotted nail pliers on his desk. I immediately felt repulsiveness and I had to push away images of him clipping his nails while waiting for patients. I was wondering why on earth I'm spending so much of my time and money on this person. But regardless of such feelings I know from experience that the only good way forward is to honestly talk about all those things (and my experience is 400+ sessions with this T) and although it was a very stormy and hard session, in the end we were fine again.