Recite to yourself, during session and every time you think of her, all the negative things she has done and said to you. The taking away of touch, no I love you's, the phone, creating a situation where you became addicted to something to deal with it...the catalog of things the woman has done seems endless. Ignore any good things. Attempts at objectivity will just keep you trapped.

Haven't done this with a therapist, but it helps when gearing up to break up with someone.