In regards to your mom, mine gets sad, too. It's honestly just something moms do when they can't take away their kids' pain like they used to. It's hard for me to talk about, so I won't go heavily into it, but I have these two nephews. In my eyes, they're my kids and I love them as if they're my boys. And they are. Well, I went through a situation when I couldn't take their pain from them. I didn't fully understand their pain and that's the first step to being able to help someone; I couldn't even do the first step. I would never want them to hold secrets from me simply because they don't want me sad. Sure, I might get sad, but if just listening so they get things off their chest, is all I can do then I want to do it. After all, they're my boys and I'll always be here. Even if they're not anymore; but I won't go into that right now. Like I said, it's a painful subject.

In regards to my own depression towards loved ones, I know exactly what you're talking about. I don't like the idea of making my mom sad, but I know she's going to do it anyway if I'm not open with her. Do I tell her everything? No, but I tell her enough to ease her mind in regards to just being able to listen. When my fiance's so worried about me that he calls throughout his work shift and he's sad because I am, that hurts a lot. I'm suppose to be his rock and make him happy, so when I can't it tears me up (though he's told me many times I still am, but I need to learn to let him be that rock, too).

Is there any specific reason you haven't told your mom about your transition?