Be careful what you wish for rainbow. You might first figure out why is it so important for you to know what he looks like. I found out things about my therapist that I wish I never knew and she told me stuff when looking back I wish she hadn't. What do you hope to do with the information once you get it? Are you going to compare yourself unfavorably to her? Demean yourself because she has somebody and you don't. It isn't worth the unnecessary pain you might bring yourself. You have a good thing going, don't jeopardize it.