I think you have to do what you wish to do...if you want to have a baby..I think you should.

I had a girlfriend at work...her daughter j"Olivia" was born with her heart outside her body. They gave my girlfriend hope..because they knew this was going on before birth.

However, Oliva died after a couple of surgeries and I think she was 2 months old..

MY POINT for you: My friend "Julie" became pregnant rather quickly after that..and she had a lot of guilt. But, she also had a lot of counseling.

And the counselor told her that she knew "Julie" was not trying to REPLACE Olivia..and that if she wished to get pregnant she should..and she did...

Julie and I had LONG talks about this...Julie in the end of her pregnancy with her "new" baby...in no way EVER took Olivias place....not in Julies heart.

Julie was also concerned that the child itself would hate her and think that Julie was just using the "new" child for a replacement and the counselor said that she knew "Julie" and knew that Julies other child had "individual" love and affection and that that the new baby would also feel loved.

If you feel you are fully ready to accept that your daughters death was not your fault, not anyone's fault, a terrible tragedy....one that can not be reversed.

And you feel ready to have another child...ready to give your love individually to that child..only you KNOW...and if you are ready...I'm sure you will have the support of everyone that knows and loves you.

I am sorry for the loss of your daughter.....I truly am sorry for anyone that has to go thru anything like that.