I really don't know how to be a healthy parent....I never have...I have always been more of a friend to my 2 boys.

I have a car in my garage.

I have 2 boys...One works very hard...travels far to get to his job....has no children...and like every other kid that doesn't have a college degree...doesnt make that much $ and still does ok, pays his bills, etc...and I am very proud of him. This son has a car that he is making big payments on...and I feel like he deserves the CAR that is in my garage.

Son #2...has a felony record, was addicted to heroin and still may use occasionally, not sure....and because of this..he basically can only work in landscaping....he has 2 children....he and his girl struggle financially and I have helped THEM financially for years. He has a car that the only word I can think of is "jalopee" and he can't even take the kids in it. I feel like he NEEDS my car.

So...I either give the car to neither of them and sell it for myself.
OR...I give it to one of them.

And how do I chose and I am so distraught about if I give it to one or the other..whoever i don't give it too will be hurt.