I have to agree with much of what S4ndm4n pointed out. Communication is a two way street, Pinnocchio! These days we meet people where they are and it sounds like you have the ability to show up for life despite knowing you're very anxious. It's great that you are working through these feelings because many people can't even recognize their own challenges. I hope we can offer you some reassurance that you are cared about even if people don't check in as much as you would like them to.

I'd like to offer my take on this:

Your anxiety is on a cycle of self affirming and self fulfilling prophecy keeping you on the hunt for signs and clues that people don't value you. But isn't it unreliable to seek proof of love based on the unpredictable phone habits of humans? Just for some perspective: You didn't check in with people during your rough patch. Did this mean you don't care? Did this mean you don't value any of your connections? I don't think it has much meaning at all. Is your own love and affection measurable by the number of texts you send?

If you desire more connection, and people to check in with you, check in with others. It's time to reach out beyond that comfort zone and be the change you wish to see in your life.

Big hugs!!! You can do it!

Sincerely, Lele