Hi Musing. I became unattached by being terminated. I don't recommend it. You've mentioned getting treatment for an addiction of some kind. Can you apply what you learned (and are learning) from that process to this therapist? Because every time you have posted about her since the big rupture (and even before), your therapy sounded/felt toxic. Staying engaged with her would be like an alcoholic trying to get sober by drinking vodka.

Anyway, if I had seen what was coming in my own situation, I don't honestly know how I would have broken away, but having another therapist whom I liked and was helpful would have been my best shot--to see them more than the toxic one and then just cut it off. You said you can't go cold turkey, but I'm not familiar with addictions to know if it's possible to do any other way.

I sure do wish you well. Keep posting. We all want the best for you in this, and it's hard to see you drowning in that person's toxic waste.