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Old Dec 29, 2016, 02:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Misssy2 View Post
Its hard to find a job and even harder in my opinion as we get older because business are looking for the young, educated, fresh faces...

I never even tried after leaving a career of 19 years (30 total in the business). I lost all confidence.

I see so many opportunities that I know I would be good at but I wont apply because I'm afraid I will fail.

I understand too that being in the emotional state you are in that you are unable to pull from the confidence that one needs to land a job.

I also think a temp job is best. And how about in the meantime applying for Social Security Disability (if you have any documented mental or physical conditions that could keep you from being able to get or maintain employment).

Do you see a psychiatrist and therapist? it would be helpful to you if you decided to apply for disability giving you a steady income until retirement and possibly we have to work at least part time to maintain a certain standard of living.

I agree that working with a temp agency vs. applying for a permanent job seems to be the best option for you until you can get your emotions into control.

Your pets..this kind of threw me off because I am not very close to my pet and it would never impact my decisions on employment. Do you like cats? Cause they require little care...they enjoy laying around and then they are also love-able when you are available.

Dogs - In my opinion can bring much guilt to a working person because they need to be walked...and entertained..I just don't have the energy for that...and if you HAVE to work..than I think at this time a dog is not in your best interest - I'm sorry
part of me is not sure if my age has anything to do with my not getting hired. I have been on the "hirer" end of an interview and we chose the person we felt was most qualified, their age did not factor into our decision at all. I think my shyness and low self-esteem could be part of it. i get a bit anxious at having to fit in at work.

I don't think I qualify for disability. I don't currently see a t or pdoc. I would love to but don't know who is a good one. plus I am on Medicaid so the choices are slim. I used to see ts for my guilt but none of them really helped me longterm and I had to pay out of pocket as I didn't have insurance at the time so I did not go too much.

temping has its pros and cons. lately I have had a string of disappointing temp jobs. as mentioned above, I am shy with low self esteem so fitting in is an issue sometimes. although I was always hopeful at the start of each assignment. one never knew what the job or people would be like. a box of chocolates

my guilt over my bunnies' and my mother's deaths is the biggest thing in my life. I don't have human children so I viewed my bunnies as my children. but caring for them can be very stressful as rabbits are very fragile. I tend to get very tunnel-visioned and don't often see the big picture. I missed the signs of their and my mother's illness. the guilt of this has haunted me and is always beneath the surface somewhere. i don't think it will ever go away. thank you for your kindness.