My t says that it's ok to limit or even completely cut toxic families off. She says there is no need to put up with crap just because they are family. Not particularly my situation but sometimes it's the only thing to do yet we feel guilt and it's even more stress. My daughter recently widowed, it was a horrific experience but she can't even grieve properly because his family drives her nuts. She is now facing a dilemma of limiting relationship with them (they are very toxic) but she feels guilty. So sttessful.