Long story short. I have trust issues. Mostly from abusive alcoholic parents, some from prior relationship infidelity and abuse and some from current husbands womanizing behavior when we first met and dated. Then further exacerbated when I found some writing of his detailing that he wasn't attracted to me, thought the sex was boring, and wanted to sleep with everyone around him. We went through a period where I feel he was addicted to porn and stopped sleeping with me as well. Fast forward to today and two kids later and he and I have grown together by leaps and bounds both maturing and trying to get through these past issues. So far we've done really good IMHO and have learned to communicate and work very well together. Present issue at hand is a woman who my gut tells me is kind of a mess and looking for validation from anyone and anything that will give it to her. My husband and I are in recovery and it's important for both of us to maintain relations with our sponsors to ensure sobriety. We frequent a Friday night meeting that has childcare and this woman was sitting across from us in a skirt legs spread knees on the chair in front of her directly flashing my husband. I felt disrespected and wrote her off as someone to steer clear of. My husband had been going to a meeting with his sponsor on wed nights and spoke a couple weeks ago. We got a babysitter so I could go support him and ms flasher was the literature person at this meeting. Since then every time he goes I find myself having a panic attack around these trust issues and playing the what ifs over and over in my head. I'm scared I don't completely trust him. I'm scared this flasher can destroy the whole life I have built with my husband and then I feel guilty for feeling this way. I don't want to push him away because of my mental issues so have been careful to not get angry at him, accuse him of anything, or ask him to stop going to this meeting but I can't control these emotions. It's happened for a month straight now every wed night. I've shared with my husband after he's picked up something was off with me and I've made it clear I know this is my issue. We're now stuck trying to figure out a way for him to get his recovery and me to feel we'll simultaneously. I don't know what the right thing is to do here? Keep feeling this until it stops and I grow or it breaks me down? Ask him to not go to that meeting (although admittedly this doesn't feel right because there are always going to be popping up). I have no idea how to deal with this and have no tools but really really want to be okay on wed nights. Please help!!!!