Bad argument with DD. Discussed it with T. T says DD seems to have no boundaries. T says I don't put my boundary down soon enough....that I should not participate in DD's bullying exchanges. She wants me to say, " I hear you, DD, but I'm not going to get into this now, (in the middle of a grocery store!), we will discuss it later."

Puhleeeze! DD rants at me relentlessly int he store and in her car, it's not like I can walk away. I can't imagine myself staying calm and collected...and telling her, "I hear you, but I'm not discussing it now." Instead, at first I said, "Let's not get into an argument two days before Christmas." When she persisted, yes, I blew my top. Now I'm not allowing DD to contact me whatsoever.

Anyone else have success staying calm and sane while a family member or friend just rants at you? I sure don't. How do you do it?!