Art - you know, sometimes, transference or not, the problem is actually something the therapist did. She ignored your desire for a break in January. Last time you got angry with her, she'd called you "possessed." These are reasons for anyone to be upset with anyone else. Sure, maybe there's overtones of your mother. But that doesn't excuse a therapist's mistakes, or your right to have anger at her.

I'm not trying to stir anything up; I could be wrong, but it just seems like every time she does something that others also find obnoxious - like when she told you you need to make more money - transference ends up absolving her of responsibility. And that's not helping you. Being able to distinguish between reacting to people because of transference and reacting to people because they've actually done something to cause an emotional reaction seems like a really good life skill to me.

Sorry if I'm overstepping - your last Dear T post just seems to be taking the blame all on you, and that's neither accurate nor fair.