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Old Dec 30, 2016, 12:00 AM
Bill3 Bill3 is offline
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Are they right or delusional?
Neither.

When people use words like fat they are not trying to make an accurate statement.

They are trying to hurt you and/or make you embarrassed, uncomfortable, ashamed, guilty.

Some people find pleasure in putting others down. These people make themselves feel big by belittling others.

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How do I get them to stop?
You cannot control what they do. But you can make their insults unrewarding for them by ignoring them as best you can. Don't try to reason with them. Don't defend or argue; don't engage with them. The reward they crave is getting reactions out of you.

The problem lies in them, not in you. You could even pity them: Their lives are in such bad shape that they have some internal need to belittle their own daughter.

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