I understand how you feel as I am going through something similar. I know what you mean when you say it is transference too. For example, I really want my T to hug me and take care of me like a child (similar to what you mentioned) but I know that she can't do that due to the boundaries of our client-therapist relationship. I have also been thinking recently that maybe I should quit therapy but I'm scared to do that because I love my T so much. For me, talking about all of this with my T has helped a lot. Right now my T is away on vacation for 3 more weeks which is why I am struggling with these feelings so much. I hope that when T returns and I talk all this through with her things will calm down.

I also have dreams and fantasies about my T. Again, telling T about them has helped a lot. She never acts suprised or creeped out or anything which makes me feel much less ashamed of it. I would suggest talk to your T about how your are feeling and see how she handles it. I am sure she will be very supportive and help you through this. Even though T's can't be with us all the time, we are not alone in this!