I don't know what he has. Could be BPD or NPD or ADHD. Or he could just be a jerk with no conscious. Whatever it is, nothing has ever been diagnosed.

He is smoking pot because the day he gets his paycheck, he stops at the pot store (yes it's legal here) and buys about $100 worth of it. He's still working on that reserve. Maybe he'll be motivated to go get his check when he runs out of pot, even though everyone around here but me it seems smokes it so he'd have no trouble finding some. I hate it, I have nothing to do with it. Same with the beer. He has no beer and I haven't gotten him any so he's stuck drinking my vodka. I do all the grocery shopping so of course he's going to eat whatever I buy.

And no, he's not selling pot. He doesn't have the drive to walk out the front door much less to find a way to sell pot.

As far as I know before we met he just had tons of debt because he couldn't manage his money. His mother may have helped him, but she's as bad as he is. As far as the daughter's tuition goes, he was able to pay it before now, but she hasn't been in school since May so he's had a break. Not sure how he's going to pay that $400 now along with his own bills which add up to another $600 or so a month. Of course he won't help with OUR bills!