You don't have to leave him to change your life. You can stop monitoring what he does or doesn't do and start enjoying your life. You also could stop enabling him. People who don't work most certainly can't afford to drink vodka or go out for breakfast or own a car or have gas or a phone. Certainly you have to pay for utilities and food as you dint have other options, but other stuff shouldn't be your obligations. Yes things could change if you stop enabling him. You don't need to divorce him to force him get a job and keep it.