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Dec 30, 2016, 03:44 PM
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Chunyao70, I don't have any specific advice, but I know what you are feeling. I am also the youngest of three, and my mother talks nonstop about my two brothers. And I have accomplished just as much as them and been through just as much as them, but she ignores that. The things she does are very hurtful but she doesn't see it. I've learned to just stop expecting that she will ever deliver on what I need from her and seek validation elsewhere. At this age, they aren't going to change, and if they haven't validated us yet, they probably aren't going to before they die.
I'm a lot happier validating myself and letting go of what I expected of my mother.
Good luck,
seesaw
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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