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Originally Posted by artemis-within
Thanks. I just wish i could learn how to feel anger in the moment. It so often only comes later like this time and then i can find a reason to blame myself. I'm not going to accept it from myself this time though. I started to but you guys helped me not do that. I'm gonna trust that like in the past, we will work it out. My anger at her will just be a memory by the time i see her again, so that should make it less scary.
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Try not to beat yourself up. I do the same thing with people sometimes. Like someone says something, and it hurts, but I don't say anything right away, like it doesn't process till I leave the situation, and then I'm like, hey!! that's not cool. It's like I freeze. I've gotten better at reacting in the moment with work on myself and time. Tangent: it's funny because I went from one extreme to the other, very passive all my life and letting people treat me like crap, to "Hey!! That's not cool, like in yo face!" Especially on the internet. I am learning how to be more assertive. Balance it out. Anyway, I'm really sorry that your T said that to you. I don't know the context, or the situation, and wonder if she meant about the balance / imbalance of power between T and client. But it sounds like there's more to it than that.
