Thanks couchies for your support this past few days. I'm settled now within myself (no more rants, at least until I talk to t again on 1/7. at that point all bets are off) and for now anyway, am feeling actually rather empowered by admitting to myself that yes I am angry with t for some of the things she said. And it will be good practice for me to go in there a week from tomorrow and start a conversation about it.