Hello Sweetone93: I'm sorry you find yourself in this most difficult situation. I don't really know anything about this. So I can't be of any help. But I just thought I would say that, from my perspective, communication is very important in a marriage. You mentioned you & your hubby are thinking of seeing an MFT. From my perspective, that seems like an excellent idea. You really have two options here. You can either get out in front of this now & figure out how to handle it, or you can worry & ruminate over it & hope it turns out okay. Personally I think the former is the way to go. I wish you both well...