I was excited to hear about your neighbors' son's achievements and what he was doing for his parents, etc. and I don't even know him :-) I think a good story is a good story and your mother was thrilled to have one to tell?

Can you have a conversation with your mother and tell her how intimidated you felt and how you hope you might be that kind of son who could take his parents travelling, etc.? She might be startled that the story had that effect on you or she might otherwise reassure you that she loves "you" not what you can do for her.

I don't know if you are Philippino but I do know that Philippino families are usually very close and children are raised to be respectful and obedient to their parents and other elders. I can understand if you felt a bit worried that when you are older you may/may not be able to give your mother/parents material things like trips and visits such as the neighbor son has.

One thing that might have made me feel better when I was your age would have been to have more faith in myself and abilities. I have always been "smart" and had good sense, honest, creative, and I have a good sense of humor but I didn't stop to realize these attributes were mine and what that meant for my future. I would like to think if I had been in your situation and knew what I know now about myself that I could have laughed and teased my mother a little about wanting me to take her travelling when I was an older son :-) I would even ask her about herself and what she wanted when she was younger and where she would like to go on "our" trip in 10 years time :-) Feeling good about ourselves and abilities and sharing ourselves with others in that way can often help others see when they are thinking a "dangerous" way, when they are forgetting the person, and only thinking how that person can be helpful to themselves. Responding to them with warmth and humor can sometimes get them to see us as we are. Then, in 10 years, it would still be the reflection of a wonderful, loving relationship when you present your mother a travel book instead of the actual trip :-) She would know you "remember" and think of and love her and that really is all she wants? She wants to be special to you and to have you tell her so in some way.