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Originally Posted by divine1966
Yup. Did that too. Counted bottles.
Al anon literature helped,meetings not so much. I remember one saying "you are not going to flower shop to buy bread, so why are you going to alcoholic for emotional support? He can't give it"
. It really helped me to make decisions to leave. Mappers husband probably just can't give what she needs. He doesn't have it
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I went to some meetings. Had just started therapy on top of everything else. Was utilizing another style forum where I was working through so much more than the knowledge that my then husband was an alcoholic, yet, every bit of support, each and every step that I was taking was leading me towards a healthier me. A more free me. The breakdown went much further than his depression and all those parts of his own self/history etc that drove his addiction.
Those in my support group circle during those years did have some stories of coming towards an entire marital recovery where both partners took those steps separately and together. Not without some serious difficulties to reach those points.
Even if they don't follow, at least I'll be well is paraphrasing the motto.