Artchic, I really agree with:

"You can give it away and you've still got it!" Regarding sex.--and there are just some encounters that are so unique that they don't compare to others even if they weren't "the first one".

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aren't you special in and of yourself? There is only one Artchic! --I think when you meet "the one", you love them so much that their past does not matter, only how they love and treat you and vice versa.

When I met H, we both agreed never to talk about our former BFs and GFs, and we never have, ever!! (Except for him giving me ultimatums about a former BF whenever he walked into the Officer's Club ) We know that there were others (for instance, I have come across pictures in his stuff of him with what was obviously a former GF) but it has REALLY been for the best not to talk about it. I want him to think that he is the one I am thinking of (and if I think of someone else I also know that HE was the one who loved me enough to ask me to marry him, help me out of so many jams that it would be impossible to remember them all, actions always speak louder than words, etc.) --So just think of losing your virginity as a powerful, natural sexual instinct and finding "the one" as the willingness of two people to make a real commitment to each other.