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Originally Posted by Shadix
What I am like on here and what I am like in real life social situations are very different.
I real life social situations, I tend to not debate about anything and usually don't even have the guts to disagree with people. I will almost never express a viewpoint that I know everyone around me disagrees with. I actually do joke around, but my sense of humor often comes off as lame and awkward, so I am often inhibited. It really depends on whom I am hanging out with. With my 2-3 closest friends(all male) with whom there is no fear of judgement, I often end up being the clown of the group. Around my work friends, whom I don't yet feel fully accepted by, I will joke lightly when the opportunity presents itself, but it tends to be more scripted as opposed to letting loose like I do with my closer friends.
I agree that I am not stupid. But outwardly, that's exactly what it looks like. I still don't know for sure if it is because of social anxiety or slow processing speed, but what I do know is that I have a strong tendency to say and do things that are obviously incorrect, just like the guy from the movie. It is definitely more pronounced in social situations, but it is not limited only to them.
Just fyi, I have to really sit down and think when I write these posts and I typically need complete silence. These well thought out responses are not something you would ever see from me in a real life social situation. Not even close.
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The people you are most comfortable with, your few closest male friends, you are completely yourself with. You joke and they think you're funny! I am so glad to hear you are not an 'endless debater' as I called you.
You just need to find people who you can get just as comfortable with as your best friends. Do any girls date your friends, hang around with you guys? Those are the girls to get comfortable with and find one to date.
I know just what you mean about feeling stuck between trying to be who you want to be and being unable to not be who you really are. Also, the social pressure that dampens your personality.
In the issue I'm having with my husband, there is an element of this. He will not even hear of the possibility that he is perhaps ever so slightly, somewhat close to Spectrum.