And I was doing well last week when he was pulling this. I went to my happy place and told myself "this is a hole he's digging for himself. I can't change his mind so I'll just put on my smile and I don't care attitude. We have health and dental through my work so we won't lose that. Then he tells me he's not required to go in on Tues/wed because it's inventory and I had seen an email about how they were closed so once again was fine with that, yet I stayed home both those days because I wasn't feeling well. I could have gone in but wanted to give him a taste of my nonchalant attitude of not working. I however had time off to use and was getting paid unlike him. I could tell he was getting concerned when he asked me Wed night if I was going in the next day. I said that I was to which replied "me too". Funny how he gets all concerned when I don't go in for a few days but he feels perfectly fine taking weeks off without pay and making light of it.

Thursday is when I started getting really angry. He said he'd go into work yet I come home and find him there. Not only didn't he go in but he blatantly lies to me saying he went in to talk to his boss but he was busy so he came home and said he'd try tomorrow. That doesn't even make sense! You went into work after 1 1/2 weeks of not going in and then NOBODY expected you to stay and work because you just popped in for a chat??!! I was even able to find evidence he didn't go in. I barely spoke to him that night although he was being all lovey trying to get me to talk to him. Same thing next morning I barely said anything to him because I was sure he was going to stay home again. I was so upset that I stayed home. He rolls his eyes and laughed but he did get ready for work. I wonder if I had gone to work if he would have stayed home again? He goes to work and I start lightening up and speaking to him again and he seems fine with me.

In typical H fashion though he comes home that night all high and mighty and makes a big deal about how he went to work and everything was fine and he stayed all day and he didn't quit. Like I'm supposed to get down on my knees and kiss his feet and thank him for doing something that shouldn't be an issue! Every adult goes to their job! Why do you seem to be the exception and then need to be praised for doing so? Even throws out this random comment of "I told the guys at work today that if we ever got divorced that you'd be calling me up in a week because you were hungry". What the hell?! First off you casually bring up the word divorce with your coworkers and then are apparently insinuating that I can't cook for myself (even though I make half the meals around here) so I'd be calling you?! Is that your jab at me now? Because I wasn't saying much to you because you weren't going to work you turn that into how i must want a divorce because of the way I was acting and how all of a sudden I'm the one who must have an issue because you aren't doing anything wrong?! Now it's HIS turn to be mad at me! He does this every time that I get upset with him for pulling this crap of not going to work. He knows what he's doing is wrong, he knows I'm upset but sweeps everything under the rug and tries to be all happy happy and avoid the whole subject. Then when he finally does go in, he comes home like he's the manliest man for going to work and he was able to suck it up and go to his job and now he apparently has the upper hand and can withhold any affection or talk from me so I can see how he felt the past few days with me. I didn't do anything wrong! I'm not the one who doesn't go to work and doesn't get paid yet here I am being made to feel bad because I was so upset with him for doing that. Then I feel like I have to apologize and I don't even know what I'm apologizing for!!!