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Originally Posted by skeksi
For me, I like to address my anger with T sooner rather than later in order to sort things out. But since you feel pushed into scheduling the session, maybe that's not what you need right now.
My T has also made the "we are not equals" comment, but for me it didn't mean he's better than me, as a person. It's that in our relationship, I pay him to help. I ask him to lend some expertise to understanding my experiences. That sets up a power differential even thought we both treat each other respectfully and as intellectual equals. I do think sharing your feelings about that comment would be helpful, whether you decide to address it now or n the future.
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I also prefer to address things quickly instead of letting them wait. So maybe you should go to appointment to discuss it? (Not that a week from now is especially quickly, but better than waiting a month.)
I was thinking the same thing about the "we're not equals." Are you sure she wasn't talking about the therapeutic relationship compared to a friendship or other relationships? Both my T and marriage counselor have said that the therapeutic relationship is unique because it's (mostly) one-sided. Where in a friendship, you have to deal with the other person's feelings and problems and worry about asking too much of them. And your T knows much more about you than you do about her, so it's unbalanced in that way, too. She's heard your deepest thoughts and darkest secrets, and you (presumably) haven't heard hers.
So maybe that's what she meant? I have trouble believing, from how you've described your T, that she meant she was superior to you because of her job compared to yours. I think she's talking about the therapeutic relationship. And I think it would be good to clarify that with her.
