Dear zijax, I completely agree with you! You wrote: "I've been hypersexual and manic many times and I never once thought about cheating." Me, too! It isn't right to use bipolar and mania as an excuse to cheat.

I was cheated on by a man who had bipolar. I was not wise enough to spurn his advances, and he wanted to go to bed after 2-3 days of knowing each other. It's a long story, but when I found out he was cheating, it took me six months of suicidal thinking and planning to get over him. For years after that, I could not trust any man. He was very suave, a skilled artisan, formerly with his own well respected shop. He described to me how he got incoherent when he was manic. This did not register with me, as I had not seen anyone the way he described his symptoms. Recently, I saw him wandering around downtown. He looked run down and strange. He said, "Remember me?" I said, "I sure do! You were a real Don Juan, and cheated on a lot of women!" " He said, "I was....?????" I wanted to punish him by saying this, whether he was sick or not. What a dreadful man.



[. You want your cake and eat it too. You use bipolar and mania as an excuse to cheat on your wife when in actuality you just want that other woman. I've been hypersexual and manic many times and I never once thought about cheating. Why don't you use your sexual energy in your own backyard with your own wife? Maybe you shouldn't be married if you can't stay with one woman. It's not fair to your wife. There's no shame in that. Not everyone's cut out for monagamy. Maybe you're a circle trying to fit into a square hole; it doesn't work and causes much suffering for all involved.[/quote]