Sounds utterly dreadful. To have your friend betray you. Could take time to grieve. I've yet to ever see concrete time frames, yet, time is a healer. Your post doesn't mention if you've also taken steps towards divorce? That, too, compounds the grieving. How's your son after being attacked? Were the police involved? Will they both need to resolve this together with a counselor?

Are you and your sons safe now?

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