You are really in the midst of the storm right now.
As I was reading your post it struck me that your dream is not about your t, this is really projective identification. How do you usually interpret your dream Tongalee? In the jungian and gestalt way, everyone represents different parts of ourselves. So the caring part of you that your t is representing you are abandoning on yourself. I do t want to interpret your dream because I can't, it's a message and a gift to you to make your own meaning from.
Are you taking care of yourself or abandoning the very young part of yourself that needs to be nurtured and cared for ?