Please understand that I said that was jut the event that started it....... not the total issue in all - read the other list that I gave as well.

For the poor little 2 year was also raped and molested by four different other men through out her life and some of the acts were unspeakable...... and I have since learned as a an adult that men that rape will do so with out any concern for their victim - they are thinking on the individual orientation that is in their DNA that makes them selfish - only thinking of them self and their needs at the moment.

And... Please every one do not make this SELFISH topic about sexual abuse for while it may have started there - it has since evolved in my mind from similar events as the ones on the other list.

The Other List:

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Examples:

1.) Only does things he wants - rarely does what you want or ask for.

2.) Goes to only one grown adult childs children birthday party - forgets the rest of the grandchildren.

3.) Will drive work van while car is broken for his needs / desires, but not when you ask.

4.) Refused to watch the kids for his wife - when you ask her out on the town once a month.

5.) Refuses sex 90% of the time when you ask for it - but wants you to be willing when he needs it.

6.) Will not buy food for his own kids (I help this family out) but he will spend money on things he wants.

7.) Spends all his extra time after work (all of it) playing video games and none with you when asked.

8.) Works full time and refuses to help around the house - every thing else is your responsibility.

9.) When you ask for help - he waits 30 minutes then comes to help when you are almost finished.

10.) Rarely keeps his promises to YOU.

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So Please - if any of you want to help ME - please combine all the issues at hand and please do not settle on just one of them.