I've always wondered what the purpose of people, who you once thought were true friends, falsely accusing you of something such as backstabbing or spreading gossip is. Like, are they just doing that in order to find a reason to end a friendship in a cowardly way or do they feel secretly guilty about doing something and somehow felt like rumors were being spread. I've had that happen to me. One example is when I was friends with someone a few years ago and out of the blue, the person accused me of backstabbing.

She assumed I was telling people that she was a horrible person and that everyone should stay clear of her and not be friends with her. I never did that but she just made that accusation out if the blue. She started acting just slightly indifferent a few days prior to that. So it makes me wonder if she just didn't want to be friends anymore and just wanted to find a way to end it in a cowardly way or if she had done something and felt guilty about it, therefore, assumed I was talking bad about her behind her back. She would ignore me in purpose when she was around other people. She would only talk to me one on one.

I tried to prove that wasn't the case, that I never would do that. But she stopped talking to me right after that. She knew me for over a year and knew me way better than the new people she had just started hanging out with when it happened. So if someone had told her something, which is possible, she should have known I would never do that. So I've always wondered when people do that stuff, is it a guilty conscious or just cowardness and flakiness? I've seen the same thing happen to other people too, where they get accused of something they never did out of the blue. Anyone have this experience and have any ideas why it happens? Just curious. At the end of that same year, she did the exact same thing to her roommate that she loved having for over a year.

The new people, who were brand new freshmen, only knew her for a week, and vise versa. It was the very first week of school just after freshmen orientation had ended. She didn't mention names but I eventually found out it was from one of the freshmen who had just met her a few days prior. That freshmen was only around for one semester. So there is no way she could have felt much closer to them than someone she had known for over a year. That's why I wonder if she felt guilty and really didn't like me as a friend and didn't know how to deal with it. Not saying what she did was acceptable, but it just makes me wonder if guilt is the reason some people believe false rumors about people they know very well, especially when coming from someone they just met.