From my experience, and I have a lot, guys struggle when you say you have been hurt a lot. It puts them in a panic space. If they are a decent guy they don't want to be " that guy" and if they are an as whole they think " baggage, and no sex" .
You have to be responsible for your own well being at least until things are much further along. They need to know your not relying on them for you to feel good or happy. It's too much of a responsibility when they r just getting to know you.
Just be careful how much you share.