I always thought that as long as I knew ahead of time the sessions didn't need to be same day/same time type of thing until we switched from M-W to W-F due to all the holidays on Mondays through Dec-Jan. I am a person of routines and rituals; however, I can create new ones as life changes. What has been most important to me is to have realistic expectations presented. So if x was said to happen then as long as x happened as agreed, I'm usually pretty good. I can "accept" changes to x if something comes up from the stand point of knowing I don't control the world. I don't accept the changes in the sense that they cause a great amount of internal turmoil for me.

So - we had been M-W for about 4 months prior to the change. I struggled really hard with the change and still can not wait to get back to the M-W schedule. I'm not sure if it is that seeing t on Mondays is more helpful for me than seeing her on Fridays or what. I was really surprised on how much it affected me. I guess I'll see how I feel when I don't see her on Friday's anymore and we've switched back to M-W.

Oh and t was the one that suggested setting the schedule to M-W same time of the day on both days. When I asked her about that, she said that there wasn't any particular reason other than to make it easier to remember.

I agree with many of the other people about needing t's behavior to be consistent and when it is off even a little I notice. Like Junk, I wonder if that offness is caused by my perceptions or if something is different in what supports she is trying with me. I also notice changes in the room, the way t is dressing, the flow of how I am called back from the waiting room, .... Most of these things are just things I notice/take note of and do not really affect me. I have/had created a bond with some of the objects/space of her office space (one that is a shared space in a clinic). We know she will be moving in July into private practice and we have already had some discussions about what that will mean for me.

My t has been great at respecting and acknowledging that all of these things play a role in our relationship. Mostly, I think she is just being supportive of my neuroses, regardless it is nice to hear her verbalize the respect of and give space to my needs around these things.

Mona, I so wouldn't be able to work with your t for many reasons - that doesn't mean she isn't working for you or hasn't worked for you on some issues but not working for you on others.