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Originally Posted by Echos Myron
Consistency is absolutely vital to me. The first thing I asked current T via email before I met him was whether he had any weekly slots available. I still have the same time 2 years later.
Everything about my therapy is consistent and T knows how important that is to me. I notice any tiny change in the therapy room, his door is always ajar when I arrive, I always give three little knocks and he always shouts "come in". Once he arrived at the same time as me and he was really mad at himself for not already being inside because he knows how important the consistency is to me. After T1 who caused all kinds of anxiety by not giving me regular appointments and not knowing when he would be available, it has made a really big difference to me. I had no consistency in childhood and now I do have someone I can rely on.
It sounds like your T is failing to meet yet another need of yours, mona  |
I am coming to the awful realisation that she cant or wont meet a lot of my needs, I am sure which it is. One of my basic needs with her is no judgement and secure attachment but I honestly dont think she is able to provide that with anyone. Her relationship with her husband has been very insecure and they have separated and got back together so many times.
I can really relate to having no consistency, the only thing I was sure of was a beating from my mother, verbally or physically. This has been a consistent theme through my therapy, my mistrust of females. I feel like my t avoids this a lot. Sometimes I just wish she would work with me and not against me.