I see my T the same time every week, the same day (except for holiday weeks, which throws me). My T is very consistent with who he is in therapy. He is kind, empathic, knowledgeable, calm, and validating. This has helped me make progress and to be calm irl. I still have a long way to go, it feels like.

I'm so sorry you continue to have difficulty with your T. Before this T, I had a T who had his own issues concerning attachment and it halted my progress. I know he wanted to help (except at the end), but I stayed knowing that what he was doing wasn't helping me and in fact, harmed me. It takes a strong person to realize what's going on, I know how painful it is. Take care and keep us posted.