This is a good thing.

And yes, I need consistency. I do like same day/time, but even if it was variable, really what I truly need is for my T's behavior/demeanor to be consistent. My mother was unpredictable through most of my childhood, and not being able to know what mood she could be in left me in fear often.

My T is pretty much exactly the same each week. She is kind and calm and curious, but non-judgemental. She has made mistakes (and one would be that she never called me back or e-mailed after I called her upset Thurs night), but she recognizes them and apologizes. More importantly, she tries not to do it again.

That is good therapy. I think you've known for awhile now that you are not in good therapy; in fact you are in an abusive situation, which I hate seeing. I hope you are strong enough to walk away from this T.