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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
The people you are most comfortable with, your few closest male friends, you are completely yourself with. You joke and they think you're funny! I am so glad to hear you are not an 'endless debater' as I called you.
You just need to find people who you can get just as comfortable with as your best friends. Do any girls date your friends, hang around with you guys? Those are the girls to get comfortable with and find one to date.
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My small group of close friends is composed of guys who do not really hang out with any girls. This is actually a big part of my problem I think.
Sure they think some of the things I say are funny, but even a guy who is lame and stupid can be funny. My friends who have already accepted me will not be as judgemental as people I barely know.
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I know just what you mean about feeling stuck between trying to be who you want to be and being unable to not be who you really are. Also, the social pressure that dampens your personality.
In the issue I'm having with my husband, there is an element of this. He will not even hear of the possibility that he is perhaps ever so slightly, somewhat close to Spectrum.
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Well, this goes back to the whole point of the post, which is that I feel like no matter what we do, we face shaming and social rejection. Then if we react with anger, we face further shaming for not respecting the will of the holy majority.