You don't need your husband to go have fun. There are plenty of women groups on meetup that you can join and go enjoy yourself. But if you don't want to do that you can volunteer at a homeless shelter. If you are afraid of him then call the police if he gets physical and press charges, but if he is only verbally abusive wear headphones

Your husband will not change his ways. He doesn't have to because you are ok with how things are. You are both miserable but both refuse to make changes so it will just stay this way