I typically go in with a list and I sit there at the beginning of the session looking at the list and making decisions on comfort level and readiness level and like Skeksi said, what must I talk about to feel OKish when I leave the session. I just go with my gut in those moments.

With my next session though, I am thinking of asking her where she'd like to begin. We've talked about me needing that from time to time though I haven't actually done it yet. The closest we have gotten to was me listing out topics and having her pick which one to start with.