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Old Jan 02, 2017, 08:39 PM
*Laurie* *Laurie* is offline
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes View Post
When it comes to individuals struggling with MI's what "some" individuals feel is a good thing, may not be the case for others. During my membership I did see several members leave the site because they were triggered by that forum. One in particular was in a very bad state and suicidal. This one individual said to me "I am X and I don't belong here". I tried to help that individual feel safer, but once someone leaves, that's it and I can't reach out and offer support. I tried to look at that member's post and pick out something I could say that was "positive" about what that member posted.

Maybe "some" can handle the heat, but honestly, some may struggle with a MI where not only can they "not", but they are CONFUSED by the degree of their MI. So that person can most definitely get triggered if that person is an X and outnumbered by a strong group of Y's.

When a site is dedicated to helping and supporting people struggling with MI's it is a wise decision to consider "all" and not just the "some that can take the heat".

It is understandable that some members wanted to have that forum and interact where others may understand they suffer with X. That "if" that member get's triggered MAYBE others will see it and offer support. Yet, that doesn't always happen, often what becomes "more" important is who can articulate whatever better.

I said to someone a few years back, "how is it any good to get into a psychological race/battle where there is a wall between you, you feel like you won and that whole time the person on the other side of the wall you could not see "clearly" was severely crippled, what did you actually win?

I think Doc John's decision is the right decision and I respect it because after all, it's HIS site and he has invested a lot of time in it.
I definitely understand what you've posted. And this is part of the reason why I'm glad there's a specific group/forum on PC now that is just for political discussion.

I will say, however, that when I am doing really badly with depression/anxiety just about EVERYTHING triggers me. I can't even be on PC at all. In fact, a big problem I have with PC is that I reply to others, but almost never post about my own problems while they're happening because I can't even put myself out there when I'm really messed up.

So...I wonder if some of the people who leave PC when they're having a really bad time leave because just about everything is feeding their despondency.
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Thanks for this!
healingme4me, Open Eyes